Talk is Cheap..............

[BarbieDoll]

Hey Lissie!

I feel your pain. I REALLY do. I experienced it all - the gifts for maggot while my kids got none. THe flowers sent to her while I got sent the bill. It hurts and if it didn't - you wouldn't be human.

But you gotta let it go. Putting it in his face doesn't help. If I were you I would not go online and read the banking. Doesn't help.

Just keep being the best you that you can. Live one day at a time.

We all love you,

Barb

[Lissie]

Hi Lilac, sorry I missed your post.

Hi Everyone,

I am a frequent reader but not much of a poster.

Lissie--I can so relate to what you experienced. I still receive joint information under both our names and that is how I found he has taken the OW away on weekends to places we stayed esp for the weekend after T-Day where we took the kids for many years. They eat at all my favorite restaurants because I can no longer afford to eat there. He buys her gift certificates from the same place I used to get my massages and days of beauty.

This treachery is what truly broke my heart the worst. Knowing the STBX could not even have an original thought his head to make their own new memories--he has to repeat our experiences. Wonder if OW knows?

Ic they all do the same thing. I hear from my kids that Susan's backyard has the same exact stuff that my backyard has.

Susan and I even have the same remote. The one he just got me for my bday.

It is a bit creepy. Hope your pain eases every day lovey.

[Lissie]

But you gotta let it go. Putting it in his face doesn't help. If I were you I would not go online and read the banking. Doesn't help.

Thanks Barbie, you are right. I usually do let him go alot. To the point of not even thinking about him at all.

I think the fact that I was having a shitty week, and then the bill brought back the memories of him being awful

Ick I was over it, by the time i posted tho (sigh)


I don't check his account at all I can't. Even if i could i woudn't.

We have one joint account, that is used for emergencies. I don't know why he was using that account for purchases. My money was not in the account

But when i log on to my bank online, that automatically comes up. Trust me I don't look for his crap.

But yes, I need to let go of it even more.

Thank you

[almosthopeful]

(((Lissie))).

Smooch. YOur Pisces horoscope (by me): This is week will be fun, productive, and full of love.

See, it is already coming true.

Hugs,
AH

[fig]

Morning Cookie.....

I am typing fromunderneath piles of homeowrkthat needs to be graded for today

ugh

i HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATE grading!!!

J is a tardmonkey and i kind of want to kneecap him...I know that isn't letting go but...what can a girl do???

Maybe there is some sort of reading material I can grab on it!!!

smooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooch

[BryanS]

(((Lissie))).
YOur Pisces horoscope (by me): This is week will be fun, productive, and full of love.

Not to get off topic but I wonder if there's any kind of trend in that? In what sign those of us on the boards are. I'm a pisces too. Like I said, not important but at least I'm not thinking about STBX!

[KarenMarieS]

Lissie
Its a brand new week! Almost a brand new month!

Its Spring! and from what I hear starting to look like it everywhere.

Hope your brand new week/month is spectacular!

[princess_nic]

Don't forget - tomorrow is J's special day - send HIM some flowers!

[KarenMarieS]

Is he allergic to any kind?

[cat03]

jumping late into the game but ouch, I too feel the pain of the never-learning lying dorks splurging on crap/ow and not giving the kids half of what they spend elsewhere.

I have made it a point of getting rid of anything mutual or stuff I can check, I don't trust myself so I took care of online accts and stuff, I've told 4nowH if I receive email/info for him and to take me off.

These men are just plain ol' lazy, 4nowH also did stuff for ow he did for me (boy, I thought it only hurt me when they copy-cat stuff!). It is just so damn heartless. We just have to consider the source.

4nowH used to dress like the easter bunny and buy enough chocolate for a whole month, this year he didn't even buy them ONE piece! nothing at all (they did get a bag from me). s9 was dissapointed and wondering why the easter bunny didn't come, since he's old enough I just told him the truth (good thing too, since there won't be a santa this year either, doubt he'll dress up for the kids again) Regardless, I decided, even 4 days after easter to have an egg hunt, lol. So I score on after-easter sale candy and had an egg hunt for kids last wednesday, they were happy, I was happy.

Guess who they'll cherish more 20/30/40yrs from now Lissie? you got a place in your children's heart that dork could never hold.