WAW...now the LBS Part 2

[HOPEFULinCALI]

Have you ever considered dropping your preceptions of what you did when you walked away? How is walking the blame game helping your personal growth?

Gypsy,

Your words really tugged at my heart strings. Your words of encouragement and advice meant so much to me and as always are though provoking. It also makes it difficult to do for me although I am finding ways of getting on with life. I am certainly better than several months ago. Life continues to go on without him.

I admit I have some control issues which is why it is difficult at times not to get wrapped up in what he is doing and what I did. I have detached quite a bit b/c I saw myself getting lost in the sitch, but I fear letting go completely b/c then I may forget my focus on DBing (of course my main focus should be me). Forgetting and forgiving is my goal. Without this, you are right, I am not growing as much as I could.

I am beginning to see a new therapist on April 7th who practices the same therapy as Michele so I am very excited to see someone who can help me continue the positive changes and make even more. I think a large part of my frustration also comes from having a therapist who isn't helping me to progress.

How can you focus on what you need to do while you're being split in two? How is the sense of guilt a positive tool to help you with your current situation?

My focus it to continue to offer my friendship, but living a life of my own as well. It is all for me, but I won't lie I know that an independent, fun, funny, easier going woman is what is more attractive to him. As for the guilt I suppose my guilt is helping me to never take for granted that he knows how much I care about him and our marriage. It most definitely provides the motivation to keep going without giving up when I yet again get weary.

What do you think about taking myself off our joint phone plan? We have sep. checking and savings accounts, but we each have access to the others. Should I take myself off the car insurance too? Too much?

Hugs