After I found out about his affair and he said it had been going on for over 2 1/2 yrs he broke down and cried and siad he was sorry. I pressured him in to moving back home-I thought to get him awawy from her and back with me we could work things out. Huge mistake. His remorse was short lived and 6 months later he wanted out again. I was devaasted! I had panic attacks and was off work for three months and basicaaly a basket case. Then something snapped unside me-I started getting strong. I was going on with my life-going out with friends and it took all of 2 weeks of me not ccling him before he started calling me. It was good-he was emailing me-tex messaging me,we'd go out almost every night together, and we got along great. After 3 months he moved back in. His lease was not up on his apt unitl May. In early April I started noticing him pulling away again. I tied to ignore it. As Pam says they bait you until you explode and that gives them the excuse they need to leave. He was scared of giving up his apt. I'm not sure if he was seeing the OW there or not but something was going on. I'm so tired of his lies and drama that all I want is peace and for him to leave me alon. He never talks divorce. I think if he got a divorce the OW would really pressure him to marry her and I really don;tt hink he wants any partif that. Maybe he is addicted toher sexually-I have no idea. I know it has NOTHING to do with looks.She is 5 yrs older thatn him-6 for me. She is as plain as the day is long and short and kinda pudgy. I have no idea what the atraction is. They havae known each other for yrs and I think she has been after him for a very long time. He gave into the flattery and she feeds his ego-they all do. Life in an affai is not real life. Its their escape when they are not happy with themselves. Do not underestimate the OW. They are very good at getting what they want. Rachael
