oh GOD husband, you have been reading my mind! We've not "spoken" much, you and I, but I read you faithfully.
what you said is so true! But the damage we are doing to my son is hidden. It is in the sub conches. He thinks it's normal for a mom and dad to sleep separate, he thinks it's normal for mom and dad to never say "I love you".
I so don't want my daughter to think it's ok to "settle" for less invested behavior. I know things aren't perfect all the time but to say that "it's unrealistic to think you can find all you need in one relationship"? Hardly. Spouse wants to stay together, even discusses retirement plans but we are not supposed to have sex because she "just doesn't feel that way". FINE!!!! Then let's separate and I'll be the BAD GUY even though you had the affair. Great!
I am not referring to getting your every need met by ONE person but I am talking about COMMITTMENT and FIDELITY. Not having sex with your spouse? In many ways THAT is it's own form of INFIDELITY!!!
Enough ranting. Husband I know alot about back pain. You need to take large doses, REGULARLY of anti-inflammatory something plus ice, plus heat, plus stretch, plus massage. Back pain is such that if you wait until your pain is bad it' much harder to get it under control. Think of it as insulin and TAKE IT REGULARLY< even if you don't hurt. (And I thought I was done ranting! HA, who am I kidding?!?!?!)
Husband go do something nice for you. You're a good guy and I hope you find some happiness this week!
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
