Jak, Aud, and Matilda, Nice to hear from all of you.
My W had a meltdown again over the weekend. She's pleading to take a vacation. I think I'm going to need to be flexible and have money as a secondary concern and book a trip for a week at a beach. Trying to plan a budget driving vacation would be labor intensive. Given the stress level of my W, I don't have the luxery of time. The more I negotiate the issue, the more she views it as my not wanting to go. If she went on a vacation with someone else or alone, the R would be significantly harmed. I want to have something booked so she can have something to look forward to.
I visited a travel agent this morning and she recommended Puerto Vallarta. It has a beach, a hub for activity--hopefully dancing, and is far less expensive than Hawaii. I would be willing to go there for a week. I think Hawaii would take more long-term planning.
I think managing my W's stress is the priority at this time. I can be in the house and relax. She has trouble separating herself from thinking about problems and responsibilities.
My W took the day off of work today. I advised her to do only self-care activities. I emailed her about my visit with the travel agent.
Hopefully, this will help her.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
