How did you know you H was serious about it?? He has lied to me so many times, that I don't know what to believe anymore. He called this morning & we met before work & we talked a little about him coming home. I told him that I thought he needed some time away from both of us before he moved back in w/ me. That would mean he needs to move out of OW house this weekend. It shouldn't be that hard to move, all he has is cloths at her house. I REALLY want him to, but I know there is nothing I can do about it. That is very hard for me, to have no say in how my own marriage is going!! We also talked about my lawsuit against her. She finally filed a response & she is BLAMING him!!! I asked if he knew that & he didn't. He was going to question her & see what she had to say. I showed him the signed document, so she couldn't say I was lying. I know it was probibly wrong to do so but I questioned her actions. This lawsuit isn't good for either because they work for the Sheriff's Dept. I asked him why, if she loved him SO much, was she going to court to attack his charachter?? I told him I was not there to attack him, he was going to come out looking like a saint, she wouldn't. She is "justifiying" her actions by blaming him. I know he has blame here, but if she had left him alone when he did cut the ties, I truly don't think this would still be going on! She says "the truly responsible party, the plaintiff's spouse" & then tells the court how I can get even w/him.
I never thought of the addiction thing, but it makes sense. How long did it take for you H to move home? I know every sitch is different, just curious??
