Popping over from Newbies...seperated 2 months

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My D6 comes up with whoppers like that, too.

Jen, I think you're doing well. You definitely sound like a lot of the anger is gone. Once the anger goes it's easier to look at the whole relationship. I realized that I had a lot of culpability for our problems.

Also when your H cried and opened up a bit about counseling, I think you had a good reaction. You just let him say what he wanted to say without probing him for more. It really helps to let your H feel like it's safe to say things to you. This was something I really had to learn and hope that I'm keeping it level.

Keep it level around him. Let him feel it's OK to stop by without being afraid of your reaction. Let him feel your strength, don't "show" it to him.