I don't see why I should contribute to a house I have no priviledges to.
Now that is one beautiful notion. Good for you! That thinking may jar his bubble.
Have you ever considered dropping your preceptions of what you did when you walked away? How is walking the blame game helping your personal growth.
Your walking away is in the past. It contributed to where you are today, but it's not the sole cause. The problems your marriage is having started well before you left (and courageously returned). Your actions and your husband's are just the symptoms.
Although it's neat to be a resource to others about a WAS, consider your needs first. You're reliving what happened while trying to deal with your husband's departure. How can you focus on what you need to do while you're being split in two? How is the sense of guilt a positive tool to help you with your current situation.
Now is your time for you.. not the past, not educating others at the price of your own well being, not putting yourself on a cross. Give yourself HOPE, give to you.
