How can they do this to their children? Continue to disappoint them? I just don't get it.
Gypsy- I love what you've written to lwb. The only thing is with some OW's, I think it's harder to not see them as more a part of the problem. Yes, we all had issues in our M's. If we didn't, our S's may not have been so open to an A. It's just that with some of the OW's, they knew us too. They met us, they met our children, yet the chose to continue and grow the A. I try to put her out of my mind. I truly do. With someone I've never met, they don't know me. I can see how they could believe everything my H tells them. But in this case, she knows I'm not an evil person. Maybe I wasn't the best wife I could have been, but I'm not the worst either.
As we have read most affairs are between people who know each other well, usually a coworker or someone who is in their social circle. As in my case it was H's secretary. She was married, (2nd marriage by the way)and had two children, a daughter by 1st H and a son by 2nd H. She knew me and knew my children. My H knew her H and her children. Why don't they stop to think about all of the lives they will destroying to find their own "happiness"?
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
