I have tried detaching myself & he all but panics or he goes the other way...he seems fine and goes weeks with no contact at all, even to inquire about his daughter. I have told him more than once (& shown him by dropping her @ his parents & leaving and not arguing) that he doesn't have to see me to see his child. I just don't know what to do. I am really trying to carry on with my life. He pages me everynight he works & wants me to call him back. I am afraid if I don't he will think I have changed my mind about us. On his day to see our baby or on his weekend off he wants me to spend time with him??? (OW is at work when he is off) I have moved to an apartment & told him he is not allowed to visit there. I have to have a place with no memories with him. He said he understood?? What else can I do?? He seems to want things both ways. Everytime I start to feel better about life in general & that if it doesn't work, I will be fine -- here he comes again. I am planning on moving to give myself a fresh start. He doesn't help me financially with the baby, so I am on my own anyway. I don't want to be here if he changes his mind or she keeps true to her patterns & cheats on him too. The thought of the OW or her children around my baby, makes my skin crawl!! She is just awful!! I have heard nothing but bad things about the OW & her children. I love my baby more than anything. She is too little to understand, but someday, should this go on, I don't want to explain to her why the OW has other men at the house when her Daddy isn't there. I KNOW this is long in the future, but time flies!!! The challenge will be gone for her if we D. I am not strong enough to resist him. I know that. I would probibly take him right back without a second thought. A D is final.
What else can I do?? Should I tell him not to call?? Your advice is very helpful....THANK YOU!!!!
