WAW...now the LBS Part 2

[HOPEFULinCALI]

jmw,

Thought I'd let you know HiC, my approach with WAW regarding schedule seems to have worked at least temporarily. I sent her that text saying, "working now. What days do you need to swap?" and tried to call about 4-5 hours later and got her VM, leaving no message. So, that was my effort. It's on her plate. Kind of like D stuff, my stuff or whatever. When I picked-up 5D, to make a long story short, because details in journal, it went well. I stayed as brief as possible using "as if" while there. Nice, friendly, pleasant interaction, WAW mentioned a few 5D things, but no schedule or other negative stuff. In fact, when I left and said, "have a great day" she responded "u2" with a bit of the "sweetness" in her voice that I just love.

I hope you saw my note to you. I thought you handled yourself great and are always finding ways to change what doesn't work and keep doing what does.

Hope you don't mind me chiming in but this is the way I felt...Having said all of that, which probably doesn't help...

Of course I don't mind. I need all the advice I can get. All of your advice following WAS very helpful. It is always nice to have an understanding of what works for others to get through this tough time.

I find it a bit odd that you ask this question. When I first read the post, I thought someone was asking you this HiC. I would examine how you felt early on as the WA and then as you progressed to feel as you do now as the LBS. I imagine it depends on the person. I find it hard to understand/believe that the WA just loses all feeling entirely, despite what they say...more just really hurt, lost, confused, or just want something different. But that's me.

I truly feel my H is in still there somewhere in that monster and that he still loves me, but he is hidden behind an angry, bitter and resentful man. As the WAW I wanted my husband to make changes and really invest in building a connection with me. I wanted him to fight for me and he did fight for me but not in the way I needed him to. We didn't solve either of our faults or rebuild a connection. It especially didn't show his commitment when he went overseas for another one month trip without me. With that being said he doesn't seem to want me to fight for him. In the months past when I have tried getting closer to him emotionally or physically he has gotten angry with me.

At this point I suppose all I can do is work on the friendship and hope that by some miracle he becomes attracted to me again.

Thanks as always for your advice and support.