Help me act AS IF, Thread 4

[Nature Girl]

lmg,

I want to second what Grace said about it not being ALL your fault. Maybe to help you feel like you are doing something, you could write down what you think are the things that you can change - either things your H has complained about or just things you feel yourself can be changed. What things would you like to change for you? Work on those things for yourself.

It sounds like you know you need to detach but are having a hard time doing it. I think detaching takes time and practice. I'm so much better at it than I was 6 months ago, when I think I first starting "getting it". But it is something that you have to constantly work at to keep it going and to be better at it.

I know what it feels like to feel so alone even when you are with your H. That is my life too. But I am getting better at finding my own happiness from within myself and the parts of my life that don't have anything to do with my H, so I am okay feeling alone even when he is there. It is what it is right now.

(((hugs)))