There's a really good book out about children and divorce, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study by Judith S. Wallerstein, Julia M. Lewis, and Sandra Blakeslee. I encourage everyone to read it. It will help you out in being a great parent no matter how your situation ends.
Fish, for you my friend, all I have to say is "Go in Peace". If this is the path you've have decided is right, take the path and be at peace with your decision. Let go of the anger, bitterness, etc and walk the path with peace in your heart. This way you will heal your heart and best help your children know their hearts can be healed too.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
