Thought I'd let you know HiC, my approach with WAW regarding schedule seems to have worked at least temporarily. I sent her that text saying, "working now. What days do you need to swap?" and tried to call about 4-5 hours later and got her VM, leaving no message. So, that was my effort. It's on her plate. Kind of like D stuff, my stuff or whatever. When I picked-up 5D, to make a long story short, because details in journal, it went well. I stayed as brief as possible using "as if" while there. Nice, friendly, pleasant interaction, WAW mentioned a few 5D things, but no schedule or other negative stuff. In fact, when I left and said, "have a great day" she responded "u2" with a bit of the "sweetness" in her voice that I just love.
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I know that you are angry with your wife now, and if my question is too personal I don't expect an answer, but do you feel as if you have lost love for her. My husband says he no longer loves me and I don't know how I can build that connection again if he will not allow himself to feel that way again.
Hope you don't mind me chiming in but this is the way I felt. When my WAW was brutally angry with me months ago, I still loved her unconditionally, just an awful pain and depression that lasted too long. My 180's kind of healed me, GAL just fills the day. Lately with less contact and especially with schedule junk, I feel oddly more detached, I've done many 180's in my life and do not feel like the same person anymore. Like a new found clarity. Doesn't change my feelings, one bit. More strength, confidence, and perhaps a speck of wisdom to...I guess you could say my feelings never changed. Something that may contribute, is that I did put an excessive amount of blame on myself. Plenty of 180's there...lol
Having said all of that, which probably doesn't help, I find it a bit odd that you ask this question. When I first read the post, I thought someone was asking you this HiC. I would examine how you felt early on as the WA and then as you progressed to feel as you do now as the LBS. I imagine it depends on the person. I find it hard to understand/believe that the WA just loses all feeling entirely, despite what they say...more just really hurt, lost, confused, or just want something different. But that's me.
Saw your comment about my sitch on my dedicated thread...thx.
