You are right. I will step back & think about things before I act. H is supposed to come over tonight & when he gets there I will be happy & the woman he fell in love with. I know he wasn't at school because the academy is two blocks away from where I work & I have to drive by it each day. I promise...no snooping, just coincidence! It has made this hard though, being so close to where the school is. Then I know each time he isn't there!! This school is a big thing for his career, I hate to see him ruin it (not the first time he has missed), it affects our future should we work it out!! This is part of work; so missing school is like missing work. He was accepted to this school early because of his prior work history, which has also gone downhill since all this started. I just hate to see how many ways the OW has changed him. In all the 13 years I have known him, he has NEVER missed work!! He lies all the time, drinks A LOT, and looks miserable! I am doing my best to help him (when he asks) but it seems like when we begin to make progress something happens! He has ALWAYS been as dependable as the sun coming up & going down & now we can't count on ANYTHING from him! It is just frustrating! I love him & want more in life for him than this awful woman! I know if we divorced, we would both be miserable in the end!! I will work on myself & family & let him figure it all out himself. Thanks & any advice you can offer is GREATLY appreciated!!!
