H is expecting me to pay half on a major pool cleaning. At first I agreed but now I am rethinking my position. Since he is inviting strangers over every few months (another friend is coming in April -a girl no doubt- and two others in June after visits this past September 07 and February 08) and he treats the house as if it is own (I am not allowed to come over without his permission and I have to ask if I want to use anything) I don't see why I should contribute to a house I have no priviledges to.
He is also expecting me to watch the house and take care of the bills anytime he leaves the house for an extended period of time. He is planning a trip in May, which he has yet to tell me about, to visit yet another girl. I am sure he expects me to watch the house then and again this summer when he goes overseas and again when he goes to the CHP academy for SIX months. I don't know why he expects all this of me if he wants a D. I want to do what is right for my marriage, but at what point am I just being taken advantage of and he never has any intention of coming back.
Don't get me wrong I am still fighting for my marriage and maintaining a PMA, but he is really outdoing himself. I treated him and our marriage w/ respect during our first sep. I never went out and acted as if my marriage was already over, but he is clearly making every effort to disrespect the fact that we are still married. Why not file papers and do it with a clear conscience? Why stall on filing the papers, but continue to move on w/ your life?
Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
