Too personal...on this board..are you kidding? LOL, I will try to answer your question as best I can HIC.
All throughout our marriage I have been the affectionate one, I have longed and yearned for her to initiate affection or intimacy and she never has. In ten years my wife has never walked up behind me and hugged me and kissed me on the neck or said I love you independent of me saying first.
If my wife changed in that way...I may start to believe and open my heart. DO you see why I am so negative about having any hope for my marriage.
To you I say this, if there is something that your husband has always felt he missed, and you know what it is, could you provide that for him.
I hope this helps HIC.
Okay Okay you're right. Too personal? Maybe not on this board.
I understand how lack of affection can make one feel in their marriage (my H and I have different sex drive which made me feel worthless and unwanted as a wife). My husband and I have always been affectionate although I am not comfortable with public affection which has always bothered him.
He also feels as if I don't have confidence in him and I am too critical of him. I have been trying very hard with my 180 to show him how proud and confident of him I truly am. Up until late I have always been proud to call him my H. And even with his recent change in behavior I continue to defend him to friends and family. As far as the affection he won't let me get near him. He just doesn't feel a connection to me. I feel like I am trying to chip away at a wall with a plastic spork at this point.
You have given me something to think about. Thank you so much for taking the time to write me back. All the best.
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