I am also worried because he was supposed to call this am when he got to school (going to peace officers school through work) & he is not at school. He is supposed to come over tonight to see our daughter & I am worried he won't show. I will do my best to act as if nothing happened & be happy. He won't be able to not show again after this week & we talked about that last night. I sold my house & am moving to an apartment & he doesn't know which one. I am trying to start my life over at a place with no memories because is seems like he will never leave the OW. If we meet it will have to be at his parents or out in public. I did find out that she is a very dominating person & maybe he just isn't strong enough any more. He made the comment not too long ago that he wondered how he became so weak, that he had always been a very strong person. I assured him that he still was...not too sure anymore what to do!! I love him so much & sometimes he seems like he is coming around, but then things like last night happen. Last night he asked me what I would do if he was camped out on my doorstep when I returned from my business trip. I just wish he actually meant it!! Before last night he had been talking more about us working it out & that we were not going to get a divorce. Now I just don't know! I just have a bad feeling about how things ended last night & that he didn't go to school today. I have read your posts & you have wonderful advice, please help!