day by day

[SueS]

Its tough being 21 yrs old when you are almost 36, married, a full time demanding job, 2 kids, oh and a girlfriend.

I am embarrassed for him, that he is this tired.

I continue to wonder/process why I miss a man that disappoints me so much....

Hi lwb-

I didn't get to post, but did lurk a little this weekend. I'll say it again. I'm sorry. You're first quote really hits home. How can they do this to their children? Continue to disappoint them? I just don't get it.

Gypsy- I love what you've written to lwb. The only thing is with some OW's, I think it's harder to not see them as more a part of the problem. Yes, we all had issues in our M's. If we didn't, our S's may not have been so open to an A. It's just that with some of the OW's, they knew us too. They met us, they met our children, yet the chose to continue and grow the A. I try to put her out of my mind. I truly do. With someone I've never met, they don't know me. I can see how they could believe everything my H tells them. But in this case, she knows I'm not an evil person. Maybe I wasn't the best wife I could have been, but I'm not the worst either. I remember telling her how upset I was because my H hadn't come home until 4:00 am. She asked me how I felt. I told her that the first thing I thought about was our D4 and what I'd tell her if something had happened to him. Then I told her that I was angry, but worried.....that I wouldn't worry if I didn't love him. She knew I loved my H, yet she continued this A and has pulled not only her own family apart (H & 4 kids), but mine as well. Yes, my H had an equal part in this. I do not put all blame on her, but she does share in this.

lwb- I'm sorry for hijacking. Just a tough weekend, not feeling well and I'm having a bit of a pity party this morning.

I hope you're doing okay today. Are you getting any rain/snow? It's coming down (snow) pretty hard right now.

I'm sorry about the party thing for your H too. He invited you? So, there might be another woman there, but he invited you? I'm confused. How did he expect to handle that situation......lwb, meet so & so....so & so, meet lwb (my wife). H pulls the same kind of crap with me as it seems alot of S's do on here. This past summer we went to see Prince perform. H had suggested we go spend the night at a hotel. It sounded great and I wish we would have. However, Sue would have had to pay for everything. It was right around the 4th of July, everything was super expensive and I had other bills due. H said....no problem, no worries....we'll spend the night another time. Okay! The day of the concert, H got loaded. My parents were in town to watch D4 for us. H gets angry with me, tells me that if I don't want to go, he can find someone "fun" that will want to go and reams me for not getting the hotel room. WHAT???? Didn't know at the time that his A was just really getting started. It was down hill after that.

Take care and have a great day.