Still Tryin's 2nd piecing

[S.T. _I Made It!]

thanks Michelle,

I swear, whenever things are going okay, something happens and just brings a whole lot of anger into the house. mostly from H, but I know I do it too.

I feel bad because it's mostly generated from my s9 not doing what he's told. My H says he gets so mad at him sometimes he can't stand it. I almost feel in my heart that we don't show him enough love and attention. I know he's a good boy, but he is just so darn lazy and doesn't want to do the right thing (which takes an extra step to the toyroom to put something away right), or doesn't care. So it's like we never have the chance to praise him or give him good attention because he's always doing the wrong things. And especially w/ H. I know they hardly ever hug, and I'm working on doing that too. Luckily H has gotten in the soccer thing, and the better s9 gets I think the more chance they will be able to connect better.

What I hate is that my s9 get so extremely upset over the littlest things and he never ever sees the good in things it seems, it's always the bad. Like we got him some icecream and he had to eat the hamburger first, so I held the cone and he wanted a bite and I said sure, and he resonded with "it's melting!". I said, hun, you have got to stop talking with negativity. what could you have said instead". he said "thank you?" and I said yes, but you could have also said, "that was yummy" or something like that also.

that's just a little example. he does that with everything. I know he got it from us. and I hate that. I guess I need to make sure I talk only positively to show a good example. and hopefully I'll rub off on everyone else. maybe I can somehow talk with H. he's just that type of guy that doesn't go along with the "new" behavior advice psychologists believe in now. like praising him when he does something right... he says, I shouldn't have to praise him for doing something he's suppose to do. He's that old style that thinks he should rub the dogs face in his pee and throw him outside if he pees in the house. that kind of stuff. so it's hard for me to talk to him about what I think we should do, when he already thinks it's kinda hokey. (I tried to talk to him about what I read on the dog pee thing and he just didn't get it. It was even a book HE bought, but never read it)

hmmmmmm. time to either act as if he will be open to the ideas, or think of something creative.