You mention a lot that your W is stressed out by clutter--was it created by only you, or did she help over time? As a matter of perspective, I can relate to her feeling that way--I have a hard time relaxing in clutter, and I get overwhelmed and it seems to snowball. At the same time, I don't think it's fair for her to be all down on you about it if she helped contribute to it.
Do you know where she sleeps when she 'sleeps elsewhere'?
Good luck with ther vacation plans. I think you are a wise man.
