You need to smile and be the person he would want to come back to. Right up to the moment the judge bangs his gavel on the bench.
Great! Now I know how long to try. Then I realized by the time the gavel bangs, I'll be the person I'm meant to be. Even if there's an ending, I've already begun.
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You are the stable one and he is unstable. Same as my sitch.
I still have trouble thinking of me as the stable one. What I'd felt in the past (being a failure, ineffective, depressed, always sick and/or injured) is being negated by the present. I've definitely found my compass.. and I realize what others have seen from the outside looking in, that I've been alone for quite a while.
Aggressive actions with my husband scare the poops out of me, but he seems to be more thoughtful since it. How do I balance taking care of me with the legal process versus working on the positive steps during the emotional process?
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Oh, and NEVER discuss the marriage with the in-laws! Remember, blood is thicker than water.
They have been very caring since the bomb. I let them be the ones to contact me. They are very intense when it comes to blood relatives. I know this will continue until H gives them the signal to shut down. I keep the focus on the kids.. nothing about my husband or our relationship.
