Addie,
this is HUGE and I'm really not sure what advice to give (a little learning is a dangerous thing:))

Let's see what he said: he doesn't see a future with OW.
He noticed and appreciated your patience with him.
He is missing his family.
He hugged and kissed you (WOW!).
He wants to take things slow.

ok, I would do just that.
Take things slow(ly). Don't expect much. Continue whatever you have been doing, it absolutely works. Don't ask/initiate any OW talk (there will be plenty of time to ask all the questions ), as if she never was in the picture. Do more things together as a family. Be upbeat, confident, fun.

I'm late for work, will write more when I get back.

(((((((Addie))))))


I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders
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M 46
H 45
D 17
M/T 23
Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06
Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07
Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08