This question was really well covered back a couple of years ago...I can't remember if it is in one of the resources threads, or just a poster's thread that really got going.
Anyway, there was quite a consensus "yes" answer.
In my case: Xh's dad left, divorced, and remarried in secret when XH was about 4 or 5. HIs mom died when XH was about 9. His dad took a whole year to move back in full time...meanwhile XH was cared for by older sis who was all of 17 at the time.
Sucks pretty bad, doesn't it. When I get totally low on compassion I force myself to remember.
