I know you feel like *pants* but you are doing SUCH a good job. Your text was super sweet and a good move. (Your story about H's smoke alarm adventures, esp the part where everyone was just LOOKING at the smoke alarm beeping, made me laugh out loud.) I think your sarcastic comment about nutter neighbors is OK because you laughed together. I think that is BIG. Sweet Essie, it sounded like all of your interactions with H have been positive. That is what we are looking for right???? Can you share your goals with us again, your baby step goals???
Someone else came up with this formula:
number of interactions x positivity of interactions = more positive outlook of WA towards us
dearest Essie, I feel exactly in the same boat as you, but everyone has told me that the interaction gets easier and not as insanely destabilizing.
I know it sucks to have thigns to cry about but just let it all out, don't carry that stuff around. !!!
After my first interaction with my B I felt SO EMOTIONAL nothing made sense and I couldn't sleep until after 4 in the morning or something... and I yearned for him to love me like I haven't since before the bomb. I thought, WTFFFFF?????
I am with Ali and One Day... it might be time to try something different. do you think you could reach out at this point? I myself am learning the difference between being friendly vs pursuing, and non-pursuing vs. appearing indifferent or aloof.
Can I ask you some questions?
Is there any chance he is looking for you to make a move, even a baby step move??
Do you know if he is "working on his issues" at all, or coudl you share with us what they were?
What are his love languages? Is there any way you could use them in a light and friendly way?
What ways can you make yourself feel fabulous?
What are you goals for yourself right now?
What are your baby step goals for your R?
Essie, I am giving you the biggest virtual hug that is humanly possible!!!
