Just chiming in to remind you to not put stock in what he says about not loving you, not wanting to ever love you again, not wanting to live with you, etc.... I heard these very things from my H...he too had an OW that he was contemplating a life with...wanted to marry her at one point...then decided not to...but he too rented an apartment for a year several hours away...he said he wanted to live on his own, have his own life, do what he wanted...sound familiar???
Today...several years after these comments...he loves me, doesn't want to live apart from me and our family again...life is good for us again...we are in love...a new relationship has bloomed for us both...so, really until it all plays out to a finality of some sort...you just never know!
