I agree with Lisa, I had to be sooo strong to be friends with my BF and act or cool and smiley when I saw him and I would sob and sob after he left, literally, on the carpet wailing. But it gets easier! I think you've been very hands off and acted so super confident whenever he speaks to you, its possible he is either confused by that, or hasnt got a clue that you still love him?

Like I said to some other people, I reckon there are times when it pays to show an incey wincey bit of vunerability? And I agree with Lisa, one meeting is early days.

I'm having a hard time today, even after all the contact I have had, I am finding it tough and want to chuck in the towel. It hurts so much! We have all essentially been apart from our partners for months now and you do have to have a big heart and a lot of faith to keep going.. I think you may as well "try something different" before giving up.

Ali xxx


Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs
IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08
Reconciled 05/09 now married!
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