you and I both are here, waiting, patiently for our S's to decide what they want.
Honestly Christa, no I am not. I am getting on with my life with no illusions of my marriage being restored. I don't want to negative but I am just being honest. I like being here because the insight you all have at least helps me to be somewhat understanding with my wife and if I can give any input here from a male perspective than that is great. This forum is good moral support for me but I am really not DBing. I am detaching and moving on. Through this experience I have been able to look back at my marriage and seen it with a different perspective. As much as I wanted to save it a few months ago, I no longer feel that way. My marriage was very one sided and I don't see in my wife what I see in you all here. You all see the value in your husbands. Not only does my wife not see it, she never has. I have been too good to her. She has never had a reason to question my commitment to her and I have done everything in my life for her...work, house you name it. I have showered her with affection, love and support. She never had to respond in kind because I did not demand it of her. In turn, she wound up taking me for granted and having no respect for me. Why would I want that back. As much as I do not believe in divorce, I am not fighting this anymore.
I don't hate my wife and I am very friendly with her and will do anything I can for her if she asks. She is the mother of my boys and I will treat her with the respect that she deserves. I am sorry that I do not sound positive about my situation but I respect what you ladies are doing and I really hope and pray for your marriages to be restored because you deserve it. It takes a real women to do what you all are doing.
God bless and hope your week is a productive and positive one. JS
