You're incredible.. you can toss cookies and still be adorable.
Having the 2x4 of the rumor mill whispering about H moving to live with a GF just sucked. I keep repeating to myself.. It's none of my business. His actions are a direct result of his own personal unhappiness. If H is mad/upset, H only has to look in the mirror to know the culprit.
Getting all annoyed about a lil chick or OW works against you, against me. They are a symptom, not the cause. Fuming about them brings negative energy and drains the positive energy needed to stay the course, to focus and rebuild our tattered selves.
It's like getting mad at a zit.
The person to focus on is your spouse not the interloper. But even then, how you focus is a choice. I'm trying to transform anger to energy directed in a more positive light. Why do I want to waste my energy on anger.
It's like popping a zit.
All these techniques help me to focus on what is good and precious in life. What shreds my soul and confidence when the fear and helplessness whirl out of control, disappears with positive activity. My life can't be all about a hole in my heart.
It's like ignoring a zit.
I seem to be saying "Man that annoys me" quite a lot these days... and then moving on.. if somewhat shakily. Then I try and find an opportunity to do something nice as the day goes on.. nothing big, just a random act of kindness.
