It does not sound good. I am afraid she is in deep trouble. She may have lost one or two men, but she will go after more. If she could have found out the hard way by meeting this OM in person and discovering he did not mearsure up to her expectations, that may have put a stop to it then and their. Although there are many cases that it is carried over into a PA before it finally fades out. Some even get married, but from what I have read, it seldom works out.
I noticed you used the 180 term in your first post, but have you read Michelle's books on DR or DB? I have the DR and she covers some internet R in that one. I know that a H wants to protect his W by stepping in and putting a stop to the R....as you did with the two men. But, I noticed she was willing to D you before she even met these men in person! That says there are problems in the M that is driving her to do this.
I know of at least one case where the W left her H so that she would be free to have as many on life R as she wanted. That is her life now. So sad. EDITED - Advertisements are NOT ALLOWED.
I would get professional advice from the C as to what you need to do as far as your W is concerned. But, I do know that you cannot "make" her not see a man on-line! She will figure out a way.....even if it means leaving you to do it. Every time you go to that man or his boss or the OM's wife to expose what has been going on.....your W will hate you more and more for what you have done. It just works that way. Doesn't make sense, but that is what it is.
Stay in touch with us. I wish I could be more encouragement to you. I can only tell you that I was in about as deep as it gets and I turned around, so I am praying she will also. But first....she has got to be the one to "want to stop" b/c she sees the harm in it, not b/c you are throwing a fit, begging, or interferring in it.
