FInally Snapped.

[missmyfriend]

Regarding the seatbelt issue and the fact that the OW was operating an automobile after drinking with your children in the car, all bets are off!

I love my W with all of my being. I believe she is a gift from God but if our children are ever in danger, their safety comes first. And I think that is excellent DBing! I would have less respect for my W if she accepted my putting the kids in potential danger than if she chewed me out.

As ACJ said, your H is being a teenage boy right now and not thinking of protecting his children. A couple of drinks can make the most logical, sensible person act like a brainless idiot. I should know

Regarding the OW Cinders, it is awful. On one hand, you are happy that she is treating the children well, on the other hand, the thought of your children liking the woman that helped create a rift between your H and you is difficult to handle.

We are asked to love our enemy in many place in scripture. In fact, Jesus said our two greatest commands is "to love God and to love others". I struggle with the "others" part because He did not say to love some but all.

And Matthew 5:43-48 "43 "You have heard that it was said, 'Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' 44 But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. 46 If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? 47 And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? 48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect."

So, is He asking us to love the OW and OM in our lives? No. He has commanded us to do it. He understands that hate destroys plus we are hating the wrong thing. It isn't the person that we hate but their embracing of sin that is the real enemy.

I don't think that means we are to embrace the relationship between our spouses and the OP. In fact, that would be accepting of the sin as much as they do. At the same time, we are to love these "enemies".

Cinders, you are amazing. You have shown so much love to all of those around you and God does promise to those that are faithful to Him to make good come from this. How? I have no idea but I trust that He will!

Hugs to you!!!