when you said H made a big thing out of the date, I wasn't sure if he was acting like it was a great idea, or if he was asking tons of questions, or acting upset about it.
if the later two, then I would definitely say it bothered him. And quite possibly it was the reason he didn't mention your corset. probably was wondering who you were wearing it for.
and with your H having the OW, of course he's going to think you could have this guy as your OM too. my H said once, he didn't care who I was friends with for how long, every guy is thinking about getting into the girls pants.
Sorry you got let down a bit, but you definitely have some positives, and maybe the other "date" thing caused most of the tension for him. Next time don't have another "date", but use something else as an excuse if you need to.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I never said the word date. I just said I was meeting up with a friend later possibly. He asked who, I said the name. Then a while later he said something about my "date", I just kinda looked at him like "huh?" Then later he said I should call my friend. I said it wasn't like I was in a rush. Then probably 30 min later, he said I should call him again so I did. My friend was moving another load and was actually about 45 min away. We never ended up meeting up and that was fine with me as it was good to spend time with H.
I'm only about 30 miles from H, so it's not too difficult for me to say I want to go to a restaurant near him and invite him or just say I'm gonna be in town, want to get together. He just wouldn't accept for a while there. Now, he seems more comfortable with it, so maybe I'll try again in a couple weeks.
Chatted with H briefly on IM. Very casual, you sleep well, you hung over, plans for the day kind of stuff.
Then went to a ballroom dance class. Worked on salsa and merengue. I think I'm gonna lay low the rest of the day though as I am a bit hung over lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Sounds to me like H was perhaps a little jealous and trying to get a feel for the depth of your friendship with this guy by gauging any possible interactions (phone call, etc) you had with him. Hmm...just a thought.
Hope you feel better soon.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Lol thanks. I'm subsisting mostly on gatorade today. Some of my friends want to go to a pub tonight and I could just offer to DD as I have no interest in drinking, but I don't think I could handle all the noise lol.
I think the jealous thing probably pegged it. Especially since he's not sure where we stand and he's insisted that he doesn't care if I date and furthermore that he couldn't possibly be hypocrite enough to be angry if I did.
Now we're IMing again lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2