OMG I so know what you mean.

This past June, I sat at the pool with OW (didn't know she was OW at the time, thought she was still just my friend), talking on and off about our H's. By then, it was already emotional and physical between them, so H had already sold his story of a what a horrible wife I was. I feel like a total fool.

But, we aren't fools. We were respectful and caring. Still are. Go plant your flowers and enjoy the day.