Thanks for this. Yes, I think she wants real passion, and this has been a shortcoming in our relationship in the last couple of years which we have both contributed to. I think it is a perfectly reasonable thing to desire, and I would like this too. I see two things that are a challenge: 1. she does not really acknolwedge her parts that have created impediments (a huge one is how exhausted, stressed out and overworked she is). 2. I think some of this is MLC stuff or almost fantasy like ideas of wanting to be romanced, swept off her feet by the man, to know what she wants/needs without it being clearly stated, and for romance to be the "man's job" (these are my interpretations) 3. I'm dismayed that part of #2 seems to be this idea that "either you feel something for someone or you don't", which seems to (conveniently) rule out the idea of working on reconnecting and re-establishing intimacy, both emotionally and physically.
So, those are a few thoughts. I've read LL's and through MC we have been talking about these issues, though not specifically calling it LL. But with my W. saying she does not want to work on it, there is a real limit on opportunities with your partner to try these things out together to have new experiences with each other.
Thank you very much for your feedback. I'll continue to mull over this open-house thing...it's a tough one for me.
