2nd Post: My H just returned for a second time

[mishka422]

Tipper,

I'm so sorry you are feeling so lost right now. I'm not really sure what to say that might make you feel any better. I want to encourage you that things will get better. Maybe it's for the best that you let the love for your H slip away right now. That doesn't mean that you don't love him still but the emotion won't overwhelm you so much anymore.

You have to love yourself first Tipper. Do things just for you and put your H and what he is doing out of your head. Easier said than done, I know. I haven't been at this for very long but I am quickly discovering that the more time per day I can avoid thinking about him the better off I am. The more time I spend concentrating on me and my son the better.

The emotion that our WAS evokes in us is powerful and real but we can't make that emotion our only reality.

Crying is completely normal but if you can't control it at all you need to seek help. Please.

I'm here for you Tipper. If you need help or encouragement you know where to seek it. This is the right place.