Cinders I'm sorry you are having to suffer your kids spending time with H & OW. Like so many others I know how that feels. You have handled it so far better than I did. My H introduced our kids to his OW VERY early on when I was still reeling from the shock of him leaving. I'm glad that at least you have had a gradual transition.

All I can say about today's incident is what someone else wrote to me. Remember that H is being a teenage boy right now. I know that doesn't help you keep your kids safe and I too would be very worried if I were in your present situation. Over the years we spent so much money on cars we couldn't really afford just to keep our kids safe. Mine rarely go in the car with their dad these days but I do still worry about them when they do. As far as I know he has enought seat belts for them all and I'm sure my kids (like your D9) would be the first to tell me if he didn't.

Take care.


Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15