Yes, your H is angry, probably deep in anger stage. Sorry your kids are going through this along with you.
When my W was in this stage I thought her anger was directed only at me because I could only see from my perspective. I later (months) found out it was directed at everyone she came in contact with, including OM. Try to take heart in the fact that this isn't about you, nothing you did or didn't do could have prevented or caused it. It's his problem to deal with/work through but of course it affects you and your children.
My W and I had a couple of counseling sessions early on, got nowhere. I now wish I had gone dark in beginning. I think I may have avoided some of the spew/verbal abuse. Who knows?
If H quits C (and he probably will) you might consider you and kids going without him. Focus on your kids. They need you now more than ever. This is a lot harder on them than on us. That would probably be the best use of your energies right now as you can't do anything for your H, but you can make a difference in how your kids adjust/cope with this.
You are doing well and it does get easier over time.
Last edited by sleeper; 03/30/0804:43 PM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
