Dance with me on the beach Let's kick off our shoes grind the sand between our toes Feel heat rise as you spin Beads of sweat drop into the crashing waves effortless, without ceasing, without care
Washing our footprints Washing our minds
Dance with me Today is forever gone Tomorrow is yet to come
Our dance we will never forget and Someday we will return to this place of beauty, of rest, tinged with excitement to dance again
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
You know my sitch and so what, I know yours and so what. We are young yet and we will survive, better yet we will prosper, and you know why?
We are good people, you and I and everyone else here on the boards. We have come here in crisis but over time we have done the hard work and are better people for it.
So, the future, no one knows for sure what it holds but I will say this, it is up to us, and the lessons we have learned that will dictate where we end up.
We are better off, so much better off than those who left us. They are stagnant, they didn't learn and they will fail over and over again.
We will prosper Lissie, just takes time to prove it to ourselves
Oh damn, I just know how awful you felt seing that "family plan" crap. I'm so sorry that it got to you.
It sounds like you're already much better now. These little set-backs are hard. But I really believe they are just part of the bigger process of getting better and healing.
It is still a roller coaster even After divorce. Is there really closure???
Maybe have your name off of anything that has his on it. It would help prevent you seeing anything that will bring up those feelings of hurt.
WE are not robots , Lissie. Going through something like we have does not heal quickly. It is a deep rooted hurt that takes time to heal. You are just being real with yourself. THat is growth. Don't be hard on yourself.
Lissie--I can so relate to what you experienced. I still receive joint information under both our names and that is how I found he has taken the OW away on weekends to places we stayed esp for the weekend after T-Day where we took the kids for many years. They eat at all my favorite restaurants because I can no longer afford to eat there. He buys her gift certificates from the same place I used to get my massages and days of beauty.
This treachery is what truly broke my heart the worst. Knowing the STBX could not even have an original thought his head to make their own new memories--he has to repeat our experiences. Wonder if OW knows?
OH well, happy Sunday the day is sunny and I think I have some crocuses pushing up their the ground!
