I agree with Saffie. Many times the unburdening by the cheating spouse makes him feel better and the faithful spouse feel worse. It's as if he drops his garbage in her lap and then feels nice and clean. I think truth about the affair should center on what the faithful spouse asks to hear. In my own sitch, he didn't need to tell me much because I learned a lot through my investigations. And I never really believed his stories as compared with what I presumed. It was easier for me to assume I was right on dates and places and not ask for confirmation. The whole truth was not coming anyway. And as long as it was over, it didn't matter much to me. But maybe that is just me.
