Please help...need MLC advice

[tpaschal]

So I'm still trying to figure out how to approach the counseling session.

H has the kids this weekend, and it has been a very rough one for them from what I can tell. Saw them at S9's soccer game yesterday afternoon, and H expressed his frustration with S9 not listening, not doing as he's told, etc. D5 called last night to tell me good night (I know he had to dial for her) and I could hear D14 sobbing and arguing with him in the background. H hung up without speaking after D5 said goodnight, so I called back to talk to S9 and D14. H said S9 was asleep and he wasn't going to let me speak to D14 as a punishment to her. I told him that was not an appropriate punishment, and that if he ever called I would never keep the kids from speaking to him, no matter what they had done. He finally said, "Keep it short."

<sigh>

I'm trying not to tell him what to do with the kids, as I know he sees me as trying to control him, but how do I get the message into his foggy brain that some things are not acceptable? I've been trying to tell him for months that the kids are hurting and unhappy and even depressed, but he doesn't want to see that or accept it.

He seems very, very angry right now. More angry since Temporary Orders Hearing on March 12, which is when he agreed to the counseling.

Angry at me? At OW? More likely at himself?

So, in light of that, how do I approach the counseling session on Thurs.?