Purr has lost all hope. WAW/ MLC Second Thread

[AliSuddenly]

Ha, well English girls are the best in the world! I'm glad I made you laugh... you know, that was when things started to "turn" for me and my BF. We'd had some cautious emails for a while and then he actually let me know his movements (which he hadnt been doing before) and told me he was away on a course for a few days - thereby letting me know he was out of email contact. This was Valentine week, but it was also our anniversary. So I replied the next day (on our 9 year anniversary!) and all I did was send him a chatty funny email, so nothing heavy or even formal, just funny! In it I said I could picture him in some crappy Travellodge with just a Gideon bible and a suspicious stain on the bedspread for company...
and he emailed back to say that had really made him laugh!

And its been a very slow upwards trajectory ever since... so, I really think humour is a good way to reach these WAS, I know Lisa has done too..the more chatty and friendly and witty you are, they more they see you in a positive light and that contrasts surely with their own inner guilt/misery/turmoil! These WAS feel bad about themselves because they left us. We feel initially bad about ourselves because they left us! But if you can tough it out and be humorous, even tease her a little... I dont know if you've already been trying to make her laugh at all (hey, even smile is a start). I think you did when you went to the theatre that time?

Anyway, if and when she does email you, I'd keep it light and less formal and make some jokes!

If she says she is attacting sexual attention and that was missing from the R.. why is that? Is she having the classic MLC thing, eeek, I'm getting old and I am a woman and this is my last chance to turn a few heads before I hit the menopause !? Or is it that the passion had naturally eased off becuase you were together a long time, or is it that it was always missing? Have you tried to slip a few compliments in when you see her? It wasnt something my BF said to me, but I still have tried recently to be brave and say stuff like "you look nice, that coat really suits you" or something..he always comes back with, oh this old thing, or oh, I didnt even style my hair.. or well, he bats it away but thats his depression maybe or maybe he doesnt like hearing that stuff from me..but have you tried that? To gently show her that you find her attractive in a kind of non persueing way !? (this stuff is all so tricky isnt it, its a tightrope act!)

Also well done on getting out for walks and buying new clothes! You want to aim for a complete new outfit on next time you see her, something you think she'd like to see you in. My BF leaving has cost me a fortune at the hairdressers, hairdyes and new clothes. Lisa's bought up half of the silicone supplies in London, Kalni has changed her hair colour more times than shes had hot dinners.. c'mon you men, you need to catch up with us girls! Complete makeover!

Ali xxx