Watermoon. No I didn't love the OW, it was just sex. I risked everything for nothing, if that makes any sense. As far as why there won't be a third time, because I really believe if I am fortunate enough to stay with my wonderful W, I will have learned that nothing is as important as her and my kids, all others be damned.
If you believe you want to stay with your H, then tell him you need to know everything (stick with what you know you can handle at first) and that he needs to be honest with not only you but himself about the A, otherwise he will not trust himself and neither will you.
As far as what deatails did I keep to myself. I was less than honest about the frequencey of my meetings with the OW, what I got out of the affair( physical, emotional, etc.) and why the A happened.
Had I been honest with myself and my W the first time I really belive there would never have been a second time.
By the way, I have a question for you or anyone else on this thread. My A was with the same W, over an approx. 14 month period, with a 4-5 month break. Now the question, should this be considered one long affair, or two A's?
I know this is splitting hairs, but I have been debationg this in my head for a long time now. My opinion, depending on my feelinss at the time go both ways.
