Sandi2, I don't know what she could have done . The first time with the OW, I was mad at my W for putting me through 7 months of hell while she decided whether or not she wanted a D.
I met the other woman the night we went to a state mandated parenting class, and about a week later when she found out I was talking to this OW, my W wanted me back. I guess we both jumped back in to quick.
Several months later the A started, lasted about 3 months before being discovered. It was ended for about 5 months then I initiated contact again and the rest is all regrettable.
No, I did not love the OW, which is why having the second A is so confusing, but it happened, I have come completely clean about both times, and now my W is having an affair that she flaunts in my face, but denies at the same time.
Back to your question, what could my W have done? n I think had she gotten angry about it the first time, thrown a shock into me and made me realize how serious the A was, I may, no, would have been honest and done the things I am doing now. If only I had taken it more serious.
Thanks for making me think about your question. I read your post yesterday and spent most of the day trying to come up with the answer, and I will continue thinking about it in the future. I really appreciate you making me challenge myself and think about the situation in an honest way.
