you vows included him loving you as Christ loved his church, enough to give his life for her. Ummm, I don't see this happening, your kids are getting hurt, he's jerking you around (by sleeping with him you are letting him) and now you are wondering if there is something wrong with this picture?
He seems to be the same abusive jerk as always, nothing has improved, things seem to be working out just fine for him: he sees his kids when he wants to, comes over when he feels like it to get some benefits, why would he change?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.