Its hard to figure out our H why they respond or dont maybe the pictures reminded him of a family no longer together? and the choice was his, but we dont know best to leave it and go on with your life..they have to figure it out on their own
Yes, he was probably sad about the reminder. Yesterday (Fri), I emailed him and said I took his advice to join my sister on a trip. I apologized for not inviting him to join me and my family on our trip, and explained I thought he'd not want to go with us. I asked him if he would like to watch our dog. He responded with a very cute email saying if it were him he wouldn't want to be at the kennel, and if I'd ask our dog whether she wanted to spend another week with him!!! We had a cute back-and-forth about our cute dog. He sure was in a very good mood. I think he was happy that I took his advice..., and that my family would welcome with him.
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I think most of my friends and even my therapist would love for me to move on and give up most people do admire our stand the kids benefit greatly by a standing parent too I believe It gives LBS time to heal, grieve and forgiveothers may admire our courage to face it all and grow from the opportunity of pain but they still think finding a new R is the answer our society is twistedwe as LBS in my opinion are in no shape to choose a healthy partner before we do this work and it takes so much time I am grateful for the time to stand no matter the outcome It is the best decision I ever made
I whole-heartedly agree with you. I tell people that I am learning so much from this situation. I was talking to someone yesterday who thinks exactly that way- just go find a 3rd spouse and blaming the M breakdown on differences between spouses. Well, for one, men and women are SO different. If he acts on this belief, he will be forever going from 1 R to another. There will probably be no woman who would be have and think like a man would.... Or at least very very difficult to find anyway.
