Mink, Last night a friend drove but she drives all the time when she has been drinking. A few weeks ago she got really faced and picked up my S15 and drove him home. I had a talk with both of them telling W not to drive D and never pick up a kid D. Told S15, S18 &S18 if they thinks that anyone is drunk or high to never get in the car with them and to call me. I don't drink or anything so it is no problem to wake me up, just call.
She came home very drunk last night at 11PM looking for a fight which she did not get. She did push me a few times and made a complete fool out of herself in front of my S12. My S15 needed a ride home and she said she was drinking to much to drive and then tried to say she was not drunk. I could hardly understand what she was saying. She woke this AM and told me that I abused her in front of S12. She wanted another fight, no way. I have no idea what she was talking about. I simply told her I felt really bad for what she was going thru and the decisions she was making and if there was anything I could help her with I would always be there for her and I wanted to be her best friend.
Bad times Minky! I am just trying to detach and stay away from her. Her looks these day could kill, she is acting so mean it's unreal. I think she is just trying to push me away so she can justify her decision.
Quite night tonight. Went to dinner after S12 lax game with W and teammates & parents. It was fun. Very little exchange between W and I. She drank many beers and said she was dropping a friend off but has not shown up back at the house yet. No big deal. S12 is really starting to act out. Don't know what to do. W gets very mean when she is drunk so I am not looking forward to when she gets home.
be in bed when she gets home. or better yet how do your exchanges usualy go? do you ignor her taunts and walk away. then yes either dont be awake ( wink wink) when she comes how or say something to the effect " I had fun with you tonight i hope you had fun to good night sleep well" and sound like you mean it. disarm her completly. your more active then ignoring which it sound like is wearing on ya but you are still deflecting any hostil act.
She came home bombed again at 11:15. Started talking and laughing very load on the phone. Woke the whole house up. I simple asked her to lower her voice please and she started yelling, cursing and calling me names. She is such a child. I went to bed.
I broke out the recorder today and I am going to use it. She is way off the tracks. She only had one beer that I noticed today so things are calm right now.
I feel like I am losing interest, I guess it is part of the roller coaster ride.
no tree your absolutly right. loseing interest and all of a suddend missing them is natural belie me i go through a 4-5 day cycle off missing my W very bad then i will have one day were i jusyt feel numb and i dont realy care. your body doesnot want to be sad all of the time so the numbness sets in.
You guys are right, it happens to me as well. I always pull myself out of it, but it does happen.
You keep thinking "I'm doing all this work, now where's the reward?" What we often fail to realize is that this is going to take far longer than we expect.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
Things are really a mess. She is really angry. She started an argument over taxes this morning that lead to her calling her L and asking for a meeting with my L to get things straighten out in this bad situation.
The first thing she said to me this morning was that she was going out Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday night. I wrote her a note saying this is totally unacceptable to leave me as the only parent all these evenings considering I have soccer w S12 on Monday and Wednesday and then I am driving the whole family to Boston on Friday for her mothers funeral and bringing all home, except her, on Saturday. She is totally neglecting the family and leaving it all up to me. I am currently recording all conversations with her and i am considering going to the police to inform them that she pushed me on Friday night and is being verbally abusive.
This really hurts not only me but also the children but I am stuck and don't know what to do.
tree be carefull there. i know your very fed up right now but the fact your here means you want to rebuild the marrage. once domestic abuse gets filed thats going to be the final nail on a coffin for a lot of people. remember you have always tried to take the highground in all of this. the tapeing is if SHE tries to go to the cops and tries to paint a picture of YOU being the unfit parent.. I still think it would be better for both of you if a sepperation could happen. you guys are so close that any bad feelings are like a match in a powder room. if you and the kids were not around who could she fight with but herself, which sounds like she is the person she is most mad atanyway. she needs time to think were she cant get guilty or frustrated and just look up and see the K or you and have a easy blaim
