I also wanted to clarify the reason my H was watching my D8 during the play last year was because they were both in the play: my d8 was playing a princess in King and I and he had a part also. I wasn't just expecting him to babysit or something while he was acting in a play!
D8 would usually play with the other princes & princesses (there were over a dozen kids about her age) so don't think H had too awful of a time and she is well behaved, but if it bothered him he should have said something was my point to H (since he is still upset over that he says), and I did try to go when I was not crying too much... Karen
I forgot to add that the last couple days (H saw me yesterday and today) I have also been looking my best. I wore some of my new tighter clothes (that actually fit) since I've lost the 40 pounds or so that I lost, wore makeup, even curled my hair which I never do!
YOU GO GIRL!
It's good to see that you and your H are talking about things bit by bit. No matter what happens with you and H, it's good to have resolution, you know?
[quote=karen43]It's good to see that you and your H are talking about things bit by bit. No matter what happens with you and H, it's good to have resolution, you know?
I think so too! Why do you think all of a sudden H is talking about our R like this? What does it mean and is it a good thing or not for our R (is it because he feels our R is over or not over I wonder)? (I know Theoden would say don't analyze so much but I love to do that sorry Theoden!) I do think it is good to have this stuff out instead of H festering over stuff he was upset about and never talking with me like he is finally. Karen
I've been feeling really strong & happy lately which are def. 180s for me as I used to feel weak & unhappy a lot last year. I did have a little bit of a down day yesterday. It gets hard sometimes when the person you love loves someone else!!! But I am feeling better today thank goodness!
The kids and I went to a new church yesterday (H wants to attend the old one since it is a lot closer to his new apt and it is very far from our house.) We knew some of the people and everyone was super friendly that we didn't know. Only about half the church or a little more was full so they probably like seeing new members! They have a good children's program too for D8 so we plan to keep going there.
Tonight's rehearsal is a costume parade where we will try on all our costumes and I have 6 or 7, some people have even more than that so it should be crazy but fun!!! Then we have dancing after so I think the whole night will be fun! H is coming tonight to watch D8 so that is good too! Karen
The Sunday school lesson yesterday was on being patient ironically; which is tough for me! I realized today that I'm in such limbo really. H works on the house a little, but I don't think that much. He has been scraping paint off the porch for 3 full months now, so doesn't seem like he is rushing to fix the house, sell it and divorce like he planned in December. I haven't gotten any divorce papers yet, but I guess that could happen anyday if he continues to be in love with OW & wanting to live with her like he said in December. I am waiting for H to do it all, he can have that on his conscience. At least I feel better he doesn't seem to be rushing to have me out of his life I guess. Karen
Thanks Yoyo! I do feel better about the costumes after my weight loss!!!
Question for anybody that cares to post here: My H today emailed me that he wants me to figure out a budget and open a separate checking account for me. (H and I have been sharing the same joint checking account). Do you think that means I am about to get divorce papers? I am dreading that!!! Karen
Hmm...I really don't think that would be wise to do at this moment. Is he going to split what's currently in the account(s) with you now?
You know what, I honestly think it might be a good idea to get legal advice BEFORE you agree to any changes. Don't let him bully you into anything.
Think about you and your children. Find out what you need to do legally to protect yourself. DON'T just take H's word for it.
I don't know why he wants to do this now. It is scaring me! I guess I will try to drag my feet on this, and will talk to my C on Wednesday when I see her too. Lately there isn't much of anything in our joint account after bills are paid. He was taking a lot of money out before he moved out, I think to spend on OW and maybe to set up a little fund for himself since he knew he was moving out. It is frustrating that I keep DBing and DBing and H just seems to want to move further and further away!!! Maybe I need to really go dark with H now(although that is hard to do with the kids of course!)Any ideas on what I should do??? :(Karen
You are a SAHM, correct? Regardless, that money is half yours.
I think you should get records (if you haven't already) of every transaction H has made, particularly withdrawals of any kind, any CC charges, etc from the time his A started til now.
Again, DO NOT agree to any changes until you've talked to a lawyer. Please don't drag THIS out. Do it immediately.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
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