Tonight I missed an important opportunity to validate her feelings. Instead I told her how good I did instead of taking the high road.

I think I'll call her tonight to validate her feelings.

I'm sorry things aren't working as planned. Our financial problems can be worked out. We didn't get into this overnight and it will be awhile before we bail ourselves out of this mess.

Well, I've decided not to call her. Instead I'll validate her feeings the next time. Now that I know what's going on I'll be ready.