[girlfromipanema]

Everyday is an emotional struggle for me because I like you believe that the person I am with should love me like I love them,

I saw a quote at work one day that says just because someone doesn't love you the way that you want them too doesn't mean they don't love you with all that they have.

Hi neecy,

Thanks for stopping by. Sorry we're in similar situations...

Some people may be content to "get what they can" out of their marriage, but I don't want to settle. Maybe I'm unrealistic, but I saw the incredible love my grandparents had for one another and I don't want anything less than that. My grandfather passed away last year after 67 years of marriage. My grandmother was having a rough time so I spent 3 weeks with her one on one, going through old photos and hearing many loving details of their relationship. While going through a box of old photos, I found a love note my grandfather wrote my grandmother 30 years after they had been married. It said, "Darling, EVERY thing about you excites me... especially your crystal blue eyes." 30 years after they were married and he still had such passion for his wife. That's what I want...

My H isn't the most romantic man in the world, but he knows how to make me feel special and he hasn't been able to do that in quite some time because he's been busy making someone else feel special. I'm all for him having friends of the opposite sex, but boundaries are so important and he doesn't seem to realize this simple truth. He actually held her hand (right in front of me) while snorkeling on our vacation and this was one week after we'd had a long talk about what I felt was inappropriate behavior. It's so confusing, because one would think he would want to keep that behavior a secret from his wife, so I think maybe they are 'just friends' but come on...

At any rate, I will get through this a stronger and better person no matter what happens. I'm very grateful to have found this site and the many inspiring people who post.