Yea, I figured the analogy was not going to work. I have just been off. I told you it was a 1st draft. I am just in a funk.
Sometimes my brain works faster than my fingers can type. I had it and then lost it.
Did you look at the video I posted on Kalni's post?
When you posted about the shirts she keeps buying you I thought about that video. If you have not watched it please do, You will see the part I am talking about.
"See all of this is good stuff and if I was on the outside looking at the two of us I'd say they look to be a nice happy couple. But because the lack of bedroom intermacy I get frustrated and then little irritations start then we go down the whole bad loop. I must say cos I can see the bigger picture I have prevented a lot of potential flash points."
This is where it gets touchy. It's the her needs/your needs thing. Here is where you have to Do Work. Your past responses to this issue did not work. So we throw those out. We look for new ones. Be creative. In the book Michelle talks about a couple that were arguing. In the midst of the argument the guy just started stripping. So here he is naked arguing with his wife. She cracked up. They laughed about it. From that point on arguing was never the same for them. He found something that changed the dynamics.
Thats what it is all about.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
